Why you need to hug your kids when they are being 'the worst.'—Motherly
It can be hard to remember "My child is HAVING a hard time," rather than "My child is giving me a hard time."
"When we are in a heated moment or feeling a surge of our emotions, it makes it much harder to think rationally. When considering our children and how they are developing their prefrontal lobe (the part that does a lot of the planning and decision-making), it then makes sense that they have much more difficulty in expressing themselves calmly when under stress....
"When offering a hug or verbal reassurance to calm your child, you are not automatically reinforcing their behavior. You are actually helping them calm down so that they can hear you better."
photo: Toni Cathryn for Motherly